Selected Resources for Couples and Therapists

Partnering: A New Kind of Relationship

Hal Stone, PhD and Sidra L. Stone, PhD provide a readable book for couples to learn how enhanced knowledge of self can add satisfaction to your relationship, while retaining a strong sense of self. This text is a natural extension of their first book, "Embracing Our Selves" in which individuals learn about their primary and disowned "selves" as an engaging way of appreciating and improving one's life.

The book is available in paperback for at most bookstores. Additional materials can be found at

Parenting with Love and Logic 

When children and teenagers are complaining constantly, performing poorly, or acting uncooperatively parents can help set things right by applying the principles of "Parenting with Love and Logic".  This is a thoughtful, understandable program for parents rearing children and teenagers.  Many illustrative examples are provided giving parents guidance in teaching their children and teenagers to learn from the consequences of their own behaviors.   It has been used extensively with parents and schools throughout the country.  For more information and materials contact

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

This best selling 1999 book is based upon the research of over 650 couples, over 14 years by behavioral psychologist, John Gottman, Ph.D., University of Washington, Seattle.

The book is a readable mixture of research findings and concepts for improving relationships. A major feature of the book are the creative and insightful exercises for couples.

Each participant in "Couple Skills" is required to purchase a copy of "Seven Principles that Make Marriage Work." The book is available at most bookstores in paperback or directly from Dr. Hirschmann

The Seven Principles

  1. Enhance Your Love Maps
  2. Nurture Your Fondness and Admiration
  3. Turn Toward Each Other Instead of Away
  4. Let Your Partner Influence You
  5. Solve Your Solvable Problems
  6. Overcoming Gridlock
  7. Create Shared Meaning

John Gottman conducts workshops in Seattle and around the country for couples and therapists.

Workshop schedules and an array of learning material are available at the web site, or by calling toll free 888-523-9042.

Divorce Busting

Michele Weiner-Davis guides readers through a process of working with the strengths within a committed relationship to make a relationship stronger.  It provides marriage saving techniques for individuals and couples.

Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Life Time

This book written by Susan Johnson for the lay person, thoughtfully describes common pitfalls of marriage and seven conversations to help them heal.

Internal Family Systems Therapy

Emotional experience is a manifestation of family-like characteristics within the mind. This therapist's manual describes the characteristics of "parts" of the mind and their relationship to the "Self" of the mind that helps balance the range of human feelings and behaviors. Many of the interventions parallel the Emotionally Focused Marital Therapy. It also has striking similarities to "Partnering" Stone & Stone written for couples.

Richard Schwartz developed the Internal Family Systems Model. It has wide applications for individuals, couples, families and groups in distress. His Center for Self Leadership is a valuable resource.

You are the One You’ve Been Waiting For: Bring Courageous Love to Intimate Relationships

Here Richard Schwartz brings has perspective of internal parts to intimate relationships challenging couples to look to the interactions within themselves as a build block to connect with their significant others.

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